adoption

I have like 20 things on my mind from Adoption and religion, to last nights dance, to major thoughts about major things.

1. Adoption and religion. Once upon a time, I thought adoption was wonderful. Adoption: give away your kids, they are better off without you. Go do it..do it...do it already.

I was the queen of denial. I was. In fact, I remember early in our marriage my hubby and I got into an argument about it. Our church teaches that all children should be born into a family with both a mother and a father. Well who could argue with that. I couldn't..not. at. all.

I told my dh if our kids got pregnant..we would tell them to give them up for adoption. Look at me I turned out fine. Hmmm? He said he could never give away a part of him. Wow, I never heard that before. People I knew, gave away a part of them like they were candy..namely me and my brother Roy..my adopted brother, my adopted Sister, my adopted cousin, my adopted aunt. People (parents) just left us like there was no tomorrow. But, I said..two parents remember...sealed in the temple remember!!!

I lived in la la land for a few years until I met my mother. Then the flood gates opened and I saw a part of me that I had never ever seen before. An angry, and very sad person. I didn't understand what I was feeling. I didn't know why I felt this way. DENIAL. plain and simple.

Its been two years and I am just seeing the light. I can speak to my mother and maybe only 2 things she says makes my blood freeze and boil and my heart go a million miles a minute. Normally, we are ok. Well, I am ok NOW. But I wasn't always. Nope, I was far from it.

Things are different now for me. I believe that children should stay with their parents..have a history, have a FAMILY. Do adoptive parents love their kids? Heck yeah. My mother loved me very very much. I loved her very very much. I still do...she is my mother..I love her...

But...there are a slew of reasons why the parentals should stay with their children....sometimes that is not possible..and in cases like that..well...then you do what is best.
But there will be consequence..people should be aware.